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Unlearn And Learn New Ways

It's a surreal experience to be creating and nurturing a life for the rest of your life. Make the journey of parenthood the most magical one for your child and yourself by filling each moment with love and laughter.

It Starts With You

Parents often feel anxious and overwhelmed because each development stage of a child comes with unique sets of challenges. Much of this stress can be avoided if parents look within and learn to better regulate their own emotions rather than putting the child under the pressure of being emotionally mature.

If you are noticing these symptoms, then you likely have unresolved trauma you may be passing on to your children, as is.

Addictions

Aggressive Behaviour

Unrealistic Exceptions

Physical Abuse

Parent Mental Illness

Questions To Ask Self

Several studies have examined how parental emotional baggage affects children. Adults who were emotionally or physically mistreated as children may unknowingly pass this baggage on to their children. Hence, before setting expectations for your children, you should address your anger, trust issues, anxiety, addictions, nightmares, and other issues. Supposedly, a healthy family can only be built one member at a time. One family member's mental health enhances everyone's. Let you lead.

Any stressful situation, such as an imminent professional deadline, a social function, or an incompatible family member, can set off a chain reaction of stress hormones that results in well-planned physiological changes. This triggers your body's natural defence system, the Fight- Flight-Freeze reaction. Previous trauma and future insecurity can cause you to overreact to seemingly harmless situations. Children learn by observation rather than hearing. Kids frequently anchor and change their limbic brain-controlled behaviour by actively reacting to situations in the same way as parents do. Begin by monitoring, assessing, and managing your reactions.

Do you have a regular, critical dialogue with yourself about things like your appearance, your weight, your financial stability, your dread of being alone, the opinions of others, and so on? Your talks with others always seem to express the same ideas, whether implicitly or overtly. If a parent has any concerns or fears, their child will pick up on them. You may be raising a child who struggles with low self-esteem, anxiety, or a desire to always please others.

A person's energy is a combination of their past, mindset, dominant thoughts, and worldview. At times, the energy can be sensed, but it also appears silently and subconsciously. Youngsters have the greatest perceptibility and empathy for their surroundings. Parents' daily ideas have an impact on their children because they contain energy, whether positive or negative. It is transmitted to the child. Keep an eye on your Emotional Guidance Scale (EGF, by Abraham Hicks) during the day to keep yourself in the 'Neutral' or higher range. Remember that energy follows thoughts.

Parenting Is All About Learning And Unlearning

LANGUAGE

Getting your language right is probably one of the hardest parts of parenting because it is just not words but the tone that impacts the young mind. So, it’s important to use positive statements that express empathy. Using words that are negative, disrespectful, or even rude can hurt your child's development and self-esteem.
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Here are some ways to spin magic while communicating with your child

Active Listening

Active listening helps kids feel heard and understood. The simplest way is to nod, smile and have eye-to-eye conversations to make them feel safe and attached. Asking "What?" "Where?" and "How?" shows you're paying attention and nudge them on how to tell a tale and what details to add.

Reflective Listening

Serving as a mirror demonstrates to your youngster that you are attentive and caring. Reread their words. If your child says, "I'm no longer playing with Alisha," you could respond, "You're no longer playing with your friend?" Your youngster can express themselves without fear of being judged. They have a lot to say!

Speaking Clearly

Employ age-appropriate, child-friendly language. Clarify and avoid disparaging language. Kind language sets a good example for kids. Remember, the conversation should make your child feel respected and loved.

Avoiding Bribes

Chocolates, additional screen time, and their favourite toys may seem like smart ways to regulate your child, but they don't set boundaries and can cause mistrust. Have clear and reasonable expectations for your child, praise good behaviour, and employ gentle consequences to improve behaviour when needed.

Expressing Emotions

Labelling feelings helps toddlers develop emotional intelligence. Listen to your child speak without judgment. Consider their perspective. Let your youngster identify their emotions from the wide range of emotions wheel

Use ‘Noticing’ Statements

Praise boosts self-esteem and shows them what you enjoy. Instead of "excellent work!" try "I noticed that you set up the table for the dinner." Excellent!”

Having Fun Together

Parenting gets harder as kids get older. Fun and energetic conversation enhances relationships! Joke with your child, compliment their interests, and pay attention to their likes. Laugh with, not at, your youngster.

Behaviour-Centric Statements

If you're upset with your child, criticize their behaviour, not them. Instead of “I don't like that you're messy,” try “I don't like it when you leave your clothing all over the floor.

Keeping Promises

You should never give your child a promise unless you are very confident that you can keep it. This helps to construct and keep the trust that your children have in you as their parent.

PHYSIOLOGY

Parents' verbal and nonverbal responses matter the most to a child. If your child asks a question and you answer while looking at your phone, you may still appear bored or annoyed. Repeated instances of such behaviour instil a feeling of being ‘unwanted’ or ‘unimportant’ in children.

 

Your posture, facial expression, and how you're sitting or standing can all convey your state of mind and how attentive you are to others. A closed posture will have the same bad effect as not making eye contact when interacting with your children. Crossing your arms across your chest or hunching your shoulders are both outward signs of nervousness, apathy, disinterest, or aggressiveness because they cut off circulation to the brain.

 

Whenever talking to your children:

Turn your body towards them

Get close to them for more attentive listening

Keep an open core

Maintain eye contact

Parent Mental Illness

FOCUS

Every parent wishes their child well. What matters is what is your focus area for your child. Even if you say nothing but nice things to your kids, they may pick up on your concerning thought about them. You're proud of your child, but you wanted "better" results. You tell your daughter you love her but wish she was a bit taller. You tell your child you trust them, but you always question their new endeavours. To a child, the area in which your attention is most concentrated reveals the true nature of your feelings. Negative self-perceptions include thinking one is not good enough, not good-looking, or not trustworthy. Hence, parents must rewire their brains to appreciate their children's many virtues. When this happens, their words and thoughts will match. Remember Energy follows thoughts?
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